Safety Tips & Red Flags
Help Everyone Be Safe@Weber
No victim/survivor is ever to blame for being assaulted or abused. Here are some tips to help reduce risk and recognize warning signs of abusive behavior. If you see any of these warning signs in your own or a friend’s relationship, reach out for help.
We ask you to help us keep everyone Safe@Weber by:
- Making sure consent is present before proceeding with intimate actions. Consent is a clear and freely given yes, not the absence of a no or silence. Always ask for verbal consent from your partner; only yes means yes.
- Not feeling obligated to do anything you don't want to do. "I don't want to" is always a good enough reason, and “No” is a complete sentence.
- Trusting your gut. If you feel uneasy about a situation, trust your instincts and attempt to interrupt the chain of events as an active bystander (see the Bystander Intervention page for more information).
- Keeping your doors and vehicles locked and contact authorities if you witness suspicious behavior.
- Learning the signs of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse and how to help a friend.
- Only drinking from unopened containers or from drinks you have watched being made and poured.
- Charging your mobile phone. Charging stations are available in the Shepherd Union, by the Information Desk.
- Respecting other people’s boundaries; listen to what they’re saying (or communicating with body language) and act accordingly.
- Calling WSUPD for a safety escort or be present in an area if you feel unsafe.
- Learning what resources are available on campus, including: Weber State Police Department, the Office of Affirmative Action & Equal Opportunity, the Counseling & Psychological Services Center, and Safe@Weber Advocacy Services!
Relationship Red Flags
Domestic and dating abuse (often called intimate partner violence or relationship violence) often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. While physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic and dating violence are also severe. The root causes of domestic/dating violence are power and control. Warning signs of dating and domestic violence include:
- Being afraid of their partner.
- Constantly watching what they say to avoid a blow-up.
- Feelings of low self-worth and helplessness about the relationship .
- Being made to feel “crazy” or like they’re to blame for the harmful behavior. This is called gaslighting.
- Feeling isolated from family or friends because of the relationship.
- Hiding bruises or other injuries from family or friends.
- Being prevented from working, studying, going home, and/or using technology.
- Being monitored by their partner at home, work, school or online.
- Being forced or pressured to do anything they don’t want to do.