Resources for Parents
If your child is talking about hurting or killing him/herself or others, please help your child get help immediately.
- Weber Human Services: 801-625-3700
- Davis Behavioral Health: 801-773-7060
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK
- National Hopeline Network: 1-800-SUICIDE
If you believe your child is in immediate danger to her/himself or others, call Campus Police or 911, or take your child to the nearest emergency room.
A mental health crisis worker will assess your child and determine the most appropriate level of care.
As a parent of a Weber State student, you are experiencing an important transition in both of your lives. While watching your son or daughter learn and grow can be very exciting, it can also generate feelings and raise questions that are important to address. The following information should be helpful to you.
What kinds of changes can I expect to see in my child?
When your child transitions to college, he or she is likely to try on new roles in an attempt to become more independent. Your child may want your help one day and reject it the next. This may be frustrating, as it is hard for you to know what to expect. Try to provide steady emotional support so your child knows you are there when needed. Respect that your child is trying to make good decisions, and be available for whatever level of support or guidance they seek from you.
Independent Decision Making
Your child may want to make decisions or solve problems in ways that are different than what you suggest. This can be hard for parents who want the best for their children and believe they know what’s best. It can be very difficult to step back as if you were not invested in their success, because you are. Share your concerns, and also confirm your awareness that as emerging adults, they are responsible for solving their own problems. You can act as a coach or guide, but remember that your child may not always take your advice. Ask what kind of support your child needs, and trust what is requested.
College requires that students take responsibility for themselves. They must manage their own challenges, including monitoring their own academic tasks, handling their own finances, navigating their own relationships, taking care of their own health and wellness, and making big decisions regarding their major and intended career. If these responsibilities are fairly new for your child, they may feel overwhelming. Balance your support with encouragement, and trust that your child can navigate these transitions and emerge successfully. Try not to engage in excessive “rescuing” along the way.
Your child will be exposed to a host of new people, perspectives, cultures, ideas, and experiences in college. Students are expected to “broaden their horizons” and learn in ways that stretch them beyond their comfort zones. They do not have to internalize beliefs or value systems different from their own, but they must respect them and demonstrate civility as they learn and grow. This exposure can be at once freeing and stressful.
Students sometimes have difficulty adapting to the new environment and expectations of college. They may struggle with their academic requirements, with their interpersonal relationships, and even with their own mental health. They don’t have to struggle alone. Multiple resources are available on campus to assist students in their adjustment to college. Many of these departments are part of the Division of Student Affairs. Familiarize yourself with these services so that you can refer your child to seek help appropriately. Be encouraging and supportive, and openly express how much you believe in their ability to succeed.
How can I support my child through these changes?
Make sure your child knows you are available to listen, provide support, and offer guidance as desired. Try to avoid judgment and excessive advice-giving. Be patient as your child experiments with new ways of being, even if you disagree with some of his/her choices. Seek to understand your child throughout this learning and growing process. And be aware of signs that your child may be experiencing significant emotional distress or a potential mental health problem.
What potential signs of distress should I be aware of?
Students can experience emotional distress for a variety of reasons. Many students are able to get through stressful times on their own without significant impact on their emotional or behavioral functioning. Some students, however, have more difficulty coping with distressing situations and/or struggle with mental illnesses. In such cases, you may see some of the following symptoms:
- Academic concerns such as:
- Uncharacteristically poor work
- Dropping grades
- Difficulty concentrating
- Excessive absences
- Interpersonal concerns such as:
- Difficulty getting along with others
- Isolation from family and friends
- Extreme defensiveness
- Behavioral concerns such as:
- Changes in personal hygiene
- Irritability, agitation, or restlessness
- Inappropriate responses and/or disjointed thoughts
- Intense, dramatic, or volatile emotion
- Anhedonia: Loss of interest in pleasurable activities
- Physical harm to self
- Verbal or written references to distress, including suicidal/homicidal thoughts or plans
You likely know your child better than almost anyone else. If you notice behavior that is unusual for him or her, and if you feel concerned about these changes, trust your gut. Talk openly and supportively with your child and refer them to seek counseling.
I would like to know how my child is doing. Can I call his/her counselor?
We know you care about your child’s well-being. It is natural to want to know how they’re doing. Please rest assured that our staff is highly trained and dedicated to providing quality care to your child. But your adult child has a legal right to privacy and confidentiality that we must respect. As a result, we cannot give you information about your child without your child’s written permission, except under emergency circumstances.
If your child is a minor (under 18 years of age), we encourage you to extend this expectation of privacy and confidentiality to your child and allow them to engage in counseling on their own. Older teens often utilize counseling to discuss issues that they may not feel comfortable sharing with family. Talking to a counselor can help them work through struggles and move forward in healthy ways.
I think my child would benefit from counseling. How do I make a referral?
Talk to your child privately. Share your observations with statements such as, “I’ve noticed that you’re spending more time alone” or “You’ve seemed sad lately.” Express your concerns with statements such as, “I’m concerned that you might be struggling and could use some help.” Familiarize yourself with the services available at the Counseling and Psychological Services Center (CPSC) and share this information with your child. Normalize help-seeking as a healthy behavior and encourage them to do so.
What services do you offer?
CPSC offers individual, couples, family, and group counseling, and limited crisis intervention services. We also offer psychiatric care for students who are working actively with a CPSC counselor. Students who are currently enrolled in classes are eligible for short-term counseling and unlimited group sessions.
My child is a minor. Can he/she receive counseling?
Yes, students under 18 years of age may receive services at CPSC with the consent of a parent or guardian. A signed consent form must be submitted before the intake appointment.
My child is an Early College Student. Can she/he get counseling?
Early College students, and all students who pay full student fees, are eligible for CPSC services. Because your child is a minor, you will have to consent to services. You can do this before your child ever needs services by signing the Parental Informed Consent Agreement. If you did not sign this form when your child enrolled for the Early College Program, and your child would like to start counseling, you can sign it now, or you can sign one of our Informed Consent forms. Please feel free to call us for more information.